To get closer to someone, I use social media DM’s, messages, and video calls in that order. Social media DM’s are easier than suddenly face timing with others without developing social relationships. For instance, a lot of my friends are using Instagram, so I use Instagram DM’s to frankly send messages. The DM’s are like a first step to starting a conversation. Once our conversation gets intimate, either one of us says that we should talk using different means, such as messaging and video calling. I think that this is how I suggest moving on to the next level, to imply that we’re getting closer. I think distance doesn’t matter in this situation because we can still share a presence in virtual communities.
When I use Hello Talk, a language app, a lot of people use it like the way I explained above. Maybe I learned how to enhance my relationships by seeing how others would act towards me. Usually, this way works for me most of the time, and I believe it depends on how much time you spend on each means: DM’s, Messages, and video calls. If you don’t develop trust, it might be hard to smoothly move on.
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